William Carter Cooper, 53, died Sunday, July 9, 2000 at his home in Mahopac, New York.
Carter was born in Lexington, Kentucky, May 10, 1947. He was the son of Dale Carter Cooper, a native of Danville, Virginia., and the late Wray Thomas Cooper, born in
Laredo, Texas. He was an active member at Christ Church Cathedral as a youth and teen, and was a chorister in the men and boy's choir for nearly a decade.
Carter attended the University of Kentucky and the University of Providence in Rhode Island.
He served in the United States Navy as a quartermaster and later in the Naval Reserves.
He had been assistant development director of the New York Philharmonic Orchestra before becoming vice-present of developmental services at Stephen Dunn and
Associates, which is involved in raising funds for educational and other not-for-profit organizations.
Carter was a founding member of the WebWhispers Nu-Voice Club. WebWhispers is an affiliate of the International Association of Laryngectomees.
He was President of the club at the time of his death.
Survivors include his wife Denise Tacon Cooper; two daughters, Chantelle Christine Cooper and Colette Carter Cooper who lived in New York; his mother, Dale Carter Cooper; his brother, Wray Thomas Cooper Jr., and his sister, Margaret Austin Cooper Allen who lived in Louisville, Kentucky.
His father, Wray Thomas Cooper, died August 9, 1995. (information from the Voice
Tribune, July 19, 2000).
Again we have to say goodbye to a member of the group.
Again, it's too soon. It has always been my belief that God holds a special place in heaven for people that help other people. If that holds true, then Carter is in a place much better then we are. Goodbye Carter. I hope to see you when I'm done helping people. (Tommy Cook)
I thought he was one great guy. Carter's passing is a tragic loss for our laryngectomee community. He will be greatly missed. (Mary Bergquist)
God is the one that takes one and leaves the others.
I know that we will all miss him. To his family I wish peace, and know that he was loved by a big WW family.
He will live in our memory forever. (Jean Lakatos)
He and I corresponded some via e-mail, and related to one another as kindred spirits.
He had written me recently regarding a trip to France in October and wondered whether I might want to go.
I told him that regretfully, that week was already committed. When I went through my lung cancer episode back in December I contemplated my possible/ probable death, what it meant, etc. I had (have) no fear of that final journey.
What I do know, is that Carter went the way one should; suddenly, without pain or suffering, and while still a functioning being - living life as it was meant to be lived. Farewell to one of the Good Guys - until we meet again. (Philip Clemmons)
Life is but a fleeting moment. I had the privilege to talk with Carter and have lunch/breakfast, and then dinner at the WW dinner in Reno.
I will surely miss him as a friend and cohort. My love and condolences to his family, and to those of us who had the
privilege to 'pass through this world' with such a man! Love to you all. I just can't say enough about a true
friend whom I thought was a picture of health the last time I saw him. Hugs and Godspeed to you all.
I am sitting here stunned at the sudden loss of the leader of our group and a man who was our friend. My sympathy and love goes out to all who are feeling this same loss. (Pat Sanders)
The untimely death of Carter Cooper is a reminder to each of us of just how fragile life is. We will all mourn the death of Carter and, in his honor, we should all endeavor to carry on with the same dedication and commitment to laryngectomees he displayed. I'm sure he would have wanted it no other way. (Bob Cass)
Carter was a lively, talented and fun loving man who was devoted to his family, friends, acquaintances, and, of course, the many members of WebWhispers. We send our sincere condolences to Denise and the children in this terrible time of loss for them. (Murray Allan)
Although any untimely death is always a shock, losing Carter at this time has affected me deeply.
I guess I'm also mourning the future meeting we were planning in Nashville.
I was so looking forward to seeing him with his family because it had been several years since I had seen them all.
I was Carter's real estate agent when he bought his house in 1986, so we go way back.
He sometimes teased me about selling him on the "perfectly perfect" schools for his daughters.
He recently started planning to enlarge his house, but gave it his usual funny twist saying he'd like to drop a doublewide trailer next to the house, but the neighbors might not like that.
When I joined WW, the very next day, he welcomed me. I'd run into him at
the supermarket and he'd be giving a ride to his daughters in the shopping
cart, making fun out of a chore.
While filling me in on his job history he poked fun at himself saying that somehow he convinced people that he
actually knew something, and they paid him for it.
He took particular delight in making himself the butt of his own jokes, was "comfortable in his own skin," and had no need to enhance his self esteem.
The last time I saw him was at our local lary group barbecue. He was sharing stories, laughing at himself and enjoying a cold beer.
Meeting him for the first time, my husband said, "What a neat guy! I hope we get to see him more often."
That was Carter. (Libby Fitzgerald)
I met Carter last year in Reno and I found him to be a very pleasant man with a good sense of humor and a bright smile. He will be missed by all of us. I want to send my condolences to his wife, daughters and other family members, and also to all who knew him. He will be in my prayers. (Marianne Peereboom-Kooijman)
Let us all rejoice in Carter's liberation and wish him a wonderful "vacation" -- we'll all be seeing him soon enough. (Paul Galioni)
We will all miss you Carter. There're not enough words to express the sorrow we feel for losing you. But we all know that you are in a better place now. Thanks for being a part of our lives, Carter!
I have just learned of Carter's passing, and I feel so much sorrow for those that knew him and loved him, especially his wonderful family. I was
Carter's SLP at Memorial Hospital since the time of his laryngectomy. He was not only a pleasure for me to work with, but he was an inspiration to
other patients. I will never forget his laugh, his smile, or his "the glass is half full" positive attitude. As an SLP, you find yourself becoming close to certain patients, and Carter was truly one of the people I felt a closeness with. He would often share stories about his family and their times together as they traveled and "housesat" for various friends. The Coopers always sounded as if they would have a good time no matter where they were. He told such wonderful stories about his family and their vacations together. My heart goes out to his wife, Denise, and his daughters. May they live with his memory strong in their hearts. Carter was a wonderful man, I will miss him very much. (Carolyn Gartner, SLP)
He and Richard Crum and I went to the Iridium Jazz club in New York last year.
We had a great time listening to world class jazz. (Jim Lauder)
Carter was both a gentleman and a gentle man. He will be sorely missed. I was so looking forward to meeting and spending time with him in Nashville. (David Blevins)
While I served as Income Development Committee Chair Richard Crum made me aware of a new fellow laryngectomee that our Committee should contact since he was a professional fund raiser.
A delightful exchange of friendship was born with the first e-mail, and lasted until the last e-mail from him bearing the subject: "your last message..." on 7/7/00.
Since Carter worked out of New York and Venice, CA, we had the opportunity to meet in person many times.
Through the years of communication, committee meetings, and working dinners a friendship grew that we both respected and enjoyed.
I came to know him as "Coop." As I think about how to sum up my feelings about this extraordinary personality what comes to the fore is one particular dinner party.
Last year we chose to sit at the same WW Dinner table in Reno because there were several new laryngectomees seated there already.
Coop quietly became our host in a gracious, but humble way. He did this by making certain everything was passed, everyone had what they needed including walking over to the buffet table bringing platters of food over to us for seconds.
Later he made certain everyone had coffee, and dessert...served by him in a fun-loving way.
There is no substitute for good manners. Coop; always the gentleman with qualities that sparkled like the diamond he was.
His unexpected and untimely passing from the world we know is truly a great loss for each of us that knew him, those who will not have the opportunity to know him, for WW, and for the IAL.
By the way, the opening line of "your last message..." was,"...had me bursting out in song.
This could be the start of something big." (Elizabeth Finchem)
Carter was a true and great friend -- a gregarious, fun-loving man with a superior sense of humor. Yet he was also capable of being serious and sensitive ... especially to the needs and struggles of others. He was also a true diplomat and could unruffle the most ruffled feathers with sincerity, skill, and aplomb. Carter's attitude was always "how can we do it?" rather than "there might be problems, if we do it." He was a creative leader, open to suggestions and ideas, and very action-oriented. Yet, he never sought the limelight and always made sure that other people were recognized and appreciated for what they did. He made visits to many parts of the country,
always assisting laryngectomees, health care professionals, and caregivers wherever he went and whenever he could. He was the
consummate worker and a fantastic good will ambassador. Carter will not only be missed by the WebWhispers, but by the IAL as well. Carter was the central figure in the IAL's financial planning group and a key member of their fundraising team. His spirit, talents and input will be sorely missed. Carter was, above all, honest, straight forward, and generous to a fault. Anyone would have been lucky and proud to call Carter a friend. (Dutch Helms)
Farewell to one of the Good Guys - until we meet again. (Philip Clemmons)